One of the dirty little secrets of adulthood is that the to-do list is never done. Despite your best efforts, there's always a bill left to pay, or an oil change that's overdue. It's a fact that is frustrating to most and especially unnerving to those perfectionists out there. Here are two tips, using Cognitive Behavioral therapy strategies, to help ease that anxiety.

First, try this "3-minute organizing" tip - Write out your list of tasks. Then, go back through your list and mark each item with E , P , or F :
E stands for Essential . Essential tasks must be completed, usually today. These are the non-negotiables.
P stands for Preferable . You'd really like to get these done, but no one will die or be left at school if they don't happen right this minute.
F items are Frivolous . Sorry ladies, mani-pedis get this label.

Categorizing your list this way brings focus, and your list will likely feel a bit shorter, too. I find that many people are overwhelmed because they see all of the day's tasks as do-or-die, and thus become immobilized. Once you have your tasks categorized, you can dive right in with the most important, "Essential" items first, and build your time around that. (You may find you are motivated to get more of your list done, in order to work your way toward that mani-pedi!)

Secondly, take a moment to glance back at your list at the end of the day, and give yourself encouragement for what you accomplished. Not only did you get some things done, but you prioritized correctly. Don't underestimate what prioritization means. While it may mean some tasks were left for tomorrow, it also means you spent your time wisely.

The three-minute organizer naturally puts into practice a discerning spirit, allowing you to act upon your most important values and P- or F- list those activities that aren't crucial in your life. For example, maybe all the dishes didn't get done, but you were there for an important event in your child's life. Maybe the oil change will wait another day or five, but the card you bought for your anniversary tomorrow will remind your wife of how important she is to you.

Give yourself three minutes to organize , and give yourself credit at the end of the day for a job well done! There are tasks that will have to wait for tomorrow, but your peace of mind can rest easier tonight.